so now I can check off two things from yesterday's list.
The midwife seemed really nice and just had a baby a few months ago using a known donor. I was expecting more answers and experience about how the whole process works and what to expect. I was hoping that she would be someone who knew the ropes and could provide direction on how to navigate the process. Not so much. The impression I got after 20 minutes on the phone was that this would be the complete opposite of using the big fancy by the book clinic. I was hoping for something more in the middle. She didn't seem to have too much knowledge around using sperm banks and isn't sure if her signature would be good enough to release the goods from the bank since she doesn't work under a doctor. She also isn't sure if her documenting tries will be good enough for an insurance company if I need to get more aggressive after 6 attempts. She just hasn't had to do it for anyone yet.
So, my next steps are to decide on a bank and a donor then find out if the midwife's signature is good enough to release the swimmers.
Make an appt with fancy clinic since they are booking a few months out and if I have to get more aggressive then I have a head start at getting in the door. If I don't end up needing them I can always cancel.