who do I save it for if the drama is coming from my mama?

I'm kind of uncomfortable with the whole baby shower bring me a present thing.

This is what I wanted - very small gathering of people that I actually like and know and I wanted the focus to be on celebrating the baby and not so much on the gifts. I wanted it to be in a small function room or nice quiet restaurant. I wanted the whole thing to be drama free and actually about what I wanted.

What I didn't want - lots of people that I don't really like or even know. I absolutely didn't want it to be at my mother's house (my dad's side of the family wouldn't be comfortable).

I have two sisters and I had hoped that they would have realized that their main job was containing my mother. No such luck. My mother made the guest list and more than half of the list is people that I do not want there. My mother has a few friends that I just do not like, neighbors of hers that I might have said hello to 3 times in the last 20 years, and the one that boggles my mind the most is two of my nephews playmates and their mother. I can't stand those kids! She also has gone off on her own path and has asked various friends and neighbors to make different foods or favors. My sisters had a theme in mind but my mother went off and bought a bunch of blue decorations and tableware. She also won't drop the idea of the shower just being at her house. If I try to object my mother gets pissed off and tells me that I have too much to say about the shower and should just be happy with whatever is planned for me. We had a big fight over the guest list last week and in the end the only thing I could do was give in. I'm so annoyed that this has turned in to exactly what I didn't want. I'm furious that my mother refuses to see that this time it is really not one tiny bit about her and what she wants. I have told my sisters to let it go and not confront my mother about it because in the end it's just going to create more bad feelings. I don't even want a shower now and that makes me sad.